Choosing Wholeness in a Fractured World
It’s so hard to find common ground and connection when we’ve been hurt, when there’s a history pain, when trust has been broken. Our first impulse is often to separate, to pull away, to reject, to deny. But what if true healing asks us to move closer instead of further away?
The way we currently engage is not working. The pain we carry cycles through our interactions, deepening wounds instead of mending them. We are stuck in reaction, severing ties instead of building bridges. And yet, wholeness calls us to something deeper, something that demands more from us than our egos are often willing to give.
Who Are We, Really?
In moments of rupture, we must ask: Who do we say we are? And are we embodying that in how we move through the world? Wholeness is not an easy path, it is not about avoiding pain or bypassing the work. It is humbling, it is confronting, and it is also deeply rewarding. The journey to wholeness asks us to hold space for both the discomfort of our wounds and the possibility of healing.
When we lean into this work, something shifts and becomes possible. The weight we carry becomes lighter. The burdens we thought were ours to hold alone become shared. This is the true cost of healing: stepping out of cycles of harm and into something more liberating.
How Do We Begin?
We start where we are, within ourselves, our homes, and our relationships. We begin by honestly examining our values, our ancestral inheritances, and the patterns we carry. Yes, there will be people who refuse to change. People who are lost in their grief, their greed, their delusions, and their pain. There are those who thrive in cycles of harm, who see security only through control and domination. Some people cannot or will not meet us in the work of transformation. And we must make peace with that truth without letting it harden us. But for those who want to change, who are willing to engage, who long for something more there is a different path. A path that does not rely on rejection and avoidance but instead on courageous presence and intentional action.
It is easy to walk away. It is easy to cancel. It is easy to discard. But where has that gotten us? Has it brought us closer to the liberation we seek? Has it created movements of peace, harmony, and transformation? Or has it left us fragmented, further divided, unable to build something sustainable?
There is a time for defense, for protection, for standing firm against harm. But there is also a time for understanding, for building, for creating a new way forward. Our oppressors may only know the language of power and domination, but we must become multilingual in our approaches. We must learn to move beyond the reactionary and into the revolutionary.
Wholeness Begins with Us
The work of wholeness begins right here, within our own lives. It starts with how we treat our own complex humanity. It is found in how we navigate family dynamics, how we love our children, how we show up in our intimate relationships and in our communities. Every small moment offers a choice: to act from love rather than fear, to build rather than destroy, to embody the liberation we speak of. When we commit to what is right in front of us, the rest will unfold as it is meant to.
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