Who Are You?
Who Are You?
This is the most important question of your life.
I’m beyond excited to announce the release of my first workbook, Who Are You?—an invitation to remember yourself. At the root of much of our personal and collective suffering—and even our fragile democracy, is one simple truth: we have forgotten who we are.
The Cost of Forgetting Ourselves
Even when we’ve done deep healing work, losing touch with ourselves can happen in ways we don’t always recognize. We may find ourselves drawn into unhealthy relationships, harmful ideologies, or unsafe spaces that promise belonging but only deepen old wounds. Self-doubt and insecurity creep in, shaping how we show up in the world. When we don’t feel at home within ourselves, we unconsciously act out that pain—searching for home in people and places that cannot hold us. But true security does not come from external validation. It comes from the ongoing practice of self-knowing.
Oppression and assimilation teach us to hide parts of ourselves. The cost of conformity is steep—it disconnects us from our identity, our ancestral roots, and the stories and legacies that live within us. But we are bodies that carry stories. And when those stories are buried, silenced, or left unexpressed, we lose a vital connection to ourselves, creating a deep sense of insecurity, loss, and disorientation. This insecurity makes us vulnerable, not just to influence, but to manipulation. When we are unrooted, untethered from who we truly are, we become easily swayed, pushed and pulled by external forces, drifting without a steady foundation. We chase a sense of self in all the wrong places, seeking security in things that can never truly ground us. This is why the practice of self-knowing is not just personal, it is an act of resistance. In a world full of thieves of joy, reclaiming ourselves is how we break free.
The Thieves of Joy
There are many thieves of joy, forces that seek to steal, kill, and destroy our sense of self. These forces show up in life’s conditions, circumstances, rejections, challenges, and difficulties. The more disconnected we are from ourselves, the more we sustain the very structures that thrive on our disempowerment. Disorientation, confusion, and the erosion of self-connection are no accident…they are by design. These forces are the product of assimilation, oppression, and systems of supremacy. We all carry the wounds of dispossession from our ancestral lands, our traditions, and ourselves. But we do not have to remain lost. We can remember ourselves home.
An Invitation to Remember Yourself
To reclaim ourselves, we must first restore a sense of stability and inner security. And that begins with knowing ourselves.
Who am I?
What do I love? What do I dislike?
What are my values? My truths?
What beliefs have I inherited, and which ones are truly mine?
What cannot be taken from me? What is unwavering within me?
Even as we evolve and transform, there is always a steady current of self something deep and unshakable. The more we come to know ourselves, the more we see how our ancestors live in us—through the way we eat, move, dance, speak, and create. The land lives in us, shaping how we express ourselves, how we connect, how we belong. When you begin to uncover who you truly are, everything shifts. The world expands—becoming richer, deeper, more intimate. You feel more rooted, aware, plugged in, tapped in, fulfilled, joyful. Secure.
Why I Created This Workbook
Who Are You? was born from my own journey of piecing myself back together—and from what I’ve witnessed over years of supporting people from all walks of life. Across race, age, gender, and background, I’ve found that most of us struggle with the same fundamental question:
Who am I?
Who Are You? is the foundational program of Whole with Joy—an offering designed to help you reconnect with your truest self. In the coming months, Whole with Joy will be launching 1:1 sessions, group circles, and community gatherings (both in-person and virtual) to explore identity, ancestry, land, spirituality, embodiment, and more. These spaces are created for deep healing and personal and collective transformation.
What You’ll Find Inside This Workbook
Your Roots – Explore your family, childhood, ancestry, and the values that shaped you.
Identity – Unravel the layers of who you are beneath external expectations.
Purpose & Heart’s Desire – Discover what truly calls to you at your core.
What’s Holding You Back – Identify and release the blocks keeping you from your fullest self.
How This Workbook Supports You
Cultivate healing through deep self-knowledge.
Build confidence, self-trust, and inner security.
Strengthen your ability to make aligned choices.
Foster deeper, more authentic relationships by understanding yourself more fully.
Build a foundation for meaningful growth and transformation
The journey home to yourself begins here.
Get your copy of Who Are You? Today and consider gifting one to a loved one who is also on this path of self-discovery.
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Welcome to Whole with Joy!
I’m so glad you’re here. I truly hope this reflection has offered you something positive or perhaps something to consider. I’d love to hear your thoughts and any feedback you may have, so please feel free to share in the comments.
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