Let’s Talk About Sex: Scorpio SZN
“Let’s talk about sex, baby, Let’s talk about you and me
Let’s talk about all the good things, And the bad things that may be
Let’s talk about sex”
“Sexuality is one of the ways that we become enlightened, actually, because it leads us to self-knowledge.”
It’s the most wonderful time of the year—-Scorpio season! And, yes, I’m a bit biased because it’s my birthday month, but what I love most about the energy of Scorpio is how it invites us to look deep into our inner caverns, those dark places that scare us most to engage with the mysterious. It asks us to excavate what’s been buried deep into our psyches, bodies, and spirits to invite the potential for deep change and transformation.
Themes of Scorpio are associated with what’s considered taboo, hidden & forbidden. It also deals with the nature of inheritances; inheritances as Renee Sills of “Embodied Astrology'' describes as what has been “transmitted through generations” and as transmissions “one may have not asked for but given anyway.” These stories of inheritances are personal, familial, cultural, religious and ancestral. As a society, we have inherited phobias around death, sex, and the unknown; fears that live deep in our collective nervous system. These stories live within our bodies and shape how our bodies move, express themselves and interact with other bodies. Stories that shape our perception and the assumptions we hold about sex and the roles we play. What stories have you inherited about sex/sexuality? From your family? Religion? Community? Culture? What did you notice in your body when you read the words “Let’s Talk About Sex?” Did you notice a shrinking, pulling away, or a tightening on the inside? Or do you notice sensations of curiosity and connection when you read those words?
Many of us have internalized messages about sex that teach us to hide, loathe, and reject aspects of who we are. When something lives in a dark, neglected place it registers in the brain as being “bad or wrong”, and this experience of feeling “bad” or “wrong”/shameful is stored in the body. The suppression of any dimension of our being poses an existential threat which often keeps us from feeling at home in our bodies. This triggers emotions of anxiety, shame, disgust, grief which leads to behaviors driven by our shadows (what’s hidden) which is reflected in the cultural issues and cycles of harm we face today regarding human sexuality. According to Brené Brown, author, social researcher, and fellow Scorpio, “If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three ingredients to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgment.” She also talked about the antidote to shame which is learning how to talk about what scares us through cultivating understanding/empathy for our experiences. Sexual liberation is spiritual liberation, and the first step toward this kind of freedom is to build awareness. When we can take what’s scary, unspoken and give it a voice, we disarm its power. So for this season, I invite you to embrace courage by channeling your inner Scorpio and explore your inner landscape of sexuality. Let’s talk about sex…
Do you need guidance and support as you explore your journey to wholeness? I invite you to consider therapy. A great place to get started is a free consultation to see what kind of services are available and whether the therapist is a good fit. Contact me today to schedule a free phone consultation; I look forward to connecting!